No individual likes to see a loved one suffer, especially with something as damaging as substance abuse or addiction. Despite what the substance abuser himself may feel or think, a family member or friend’s insistence on getting them into rehabilitation treatment is their attempt at getting the individual the help they need in order to resolve a problem that has the potential to take over and destroy their entire life. However, when a family member or friend actually considers the many options available through rehabilitation treatment facilities and programs, as well as what they may know or think about the substance abuser’s drug or alcohol problems, they may find that they are undecided about sending their loved one to rehabilitation. The Causes of Indecision An individual who is suffering from substance abuse or addiction problems needs the professional help of a rehabilitation treatment program. Family members or friends who are stuck in indecision about sending their loved one to rehabilitation are introducing delays that can be detrimental to the individual’s health, relationships and life. No matter the situation, there is never a good excuse for delaying sending someone to rehabilitation treatment, and one can better understand this when looking at some of the causes of indecision: ● Desiring to help, but also desiring not to be nosy. It is true that the individual’s successful recovery from substance abuse and addiction largely depends on their own responsibility for drug or alcohol use and changing their life with the help of rehabilitation treatment. However, if it was just this simple, they would likely already be in treatment or fully recovered. The very nature of addiction requires that the individual receives help and support from others in order to work through the difficult path of recovery. If being nosy results in saving someone’s life, it is well worth it. ● Thinking the individual is not bad enough to need rehabilitation treatment. It is a falsehood that a substance abuser or addict has to hit rock bottom and lose everything dear to them before rehabilitation treatment will work. A substance abusing individual may appear to be functioning somewhat normally in their life, but the bottom line is that if they are using drugs or alcohol they are not functioning normally. The process of recovery can often be easier and smoother for an individual who has not sunk so deeply into substance abuse and addiction that they are no longer able to function at all. ● Believing that the individual can stop on his own if he decides to. This is a common misunderstanding that stems from a lack of understanding about the process of addiction. An individual who is addicted to drugs or alcohol is actually not able to stop on their own, even if they desperately desire to. Such an individual must receive professional help in order to overcome the immediate physical effects of substance abuse and move forward into recovery. ● Worry over causing anger or resentment. It is not unusual for a substance abusing individual to respond to attempts at help with strong emotions like anger, resentment or grief. The fact is that they are often suffering through their own feelings of guilt and embarrassment and would rather hide or deny their drug or alcohol problems than let others know about them. But a family member or friend who fails to help their loved one into rehabilitation treatment simply because they are worried that it may cause anger is failing to consider the bigger picture: the individual must receive help from somewhere in order to take back control of their life. ● Uncertainty about whether rehabilitation treatment will be successful. It can be hard to send someone to rehabilitation if one is uncertain whether they will successfully recover. This can be addressed and resolved by researching different rehabilitation facilities and programs, and getting all of one’s questions answered. Selecting the right rehabilitation facility for the individual’s needs is often critical to their successful recovery. Being Strong Whatever one’s concerns about sending a loved one to rehabilitation, it is important to remember that the individual himself is lost in a maze of confusion and difficult physical, mental and emotional effects that they cannot see through. It takes a strong, caring individual to help them enroll in rehabilitation treatment, and give them the support and encouragement they need to remain in treatment through to full recovery.